Filter yourself: Sometimes you are the toxic one.

Hi my beautiful friends,

Do you find it weird that everytime you are around your friends something goes wrong to them,

Do you find it weird that everytime you are around the problem just gets bigger and bigger,

Do you find it hard to realize that you are the toxic one here,

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It’s very easy to analyse this,

Do you hate it when someone betrays you?

But do you feel its fine to betray someone else around you when it comes to your own good?

Come on, lets be honest for once,

We have all been in that one situation where we choose our self benefits over the good for others.

When it comes to others, rules are rules, but when it comes to a situation  that benefites ourselves we happen to work our mind around the saying “Everything is fair in love and war”.

Being selfish is fine at times, because we are all humans, but when your selfishness knocks out your conscious and sucks out the pleasure or pride of others, its not fine.

Seriously, the first step in changing yourselves is admitting that you are the toxic one, and just stay out of any situation which will only bring pain for others.

Because sometimes, you are the mean one,

You are the negative and pessimistic one,

You are the jealous one,

You are the one that adds fuel to the fire.

Because here’s the truth – chances are, at some point or another, you have been toxic to someone.
Just be cautious and filter that toxic part of you,
Forget your past, because everyone makes mistakes,
Learn to be good and do good in the future.
~H.N@MyWideAwake.

India and her contradictions the simple truth-It was a spring of hope, it was a winter of despair.

“India is not, as people keep calling it, an underdeveloped country, but rather, in the context of its history and cultural heritage, a highly developed one in an advanced state of decay.”
― Shashi Tharoor

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But,

We stand fourth amongst the most dangerous country for women, and our best universities in the country shockened to make it into the top 300 at most every year.

Using the most parsimonious definition of the poverty line, there are at least 300 million extreme poor in India, living on less than simply a dollar a day.

An India that has a higher mortality rate higher than that of Sudan, Ethiopia and Bangladesh.

WELCOME TO 68 YEARS OF INDIAN REPUBLIC.

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times,

It was a spring of hope, it was a winter of despair,

We were all going to heaven, or  we were all going direct the other way.

Indians are forced to recall the memories of reading opening passage of Charles Dickens “The tale of two cities”, the exact description of India’s contradictory condition.

Mera Bharat Mahan, yes we must accept that, we are a great nation, but with  a little bit of confusion.

So lets break it down to what independence means to us, and lets move beyond the cliche, that independence means freedom with responsibility,

I personally believe that independence in a non so properly defined institutional setting, be it a nation or a small organisation cannot be absolute in itself because of its limitation of being exercised in an institution which is not capable of defining its foundation because of its complex nature.

A very misunderstood institution means unnecessary hierarchy, it means division, it means procedure, and it eventually curbs freedom.

In short we think we are free, we think we are independent, but in reality we are not.

Our institutions are weakening day by day,

Lets take day to day examples,

Lets take a leisure walk in the pavement of Lajpat nagar, you have have a very strong prerequisite, you have to be a very trained athlete in 400m hurdles to walk without falling down a manhole or getting hit by a truck.

You can not be with the person you love, and no I am not talking about educative rights, we will talk about it but later. I am talking about Interfaith marriage or Inter-caste marriages without fear of extreme social pressure.

Education or the lack of it in our schooling systems that push a million students to wait a spot in war that force their creative minds into a clinically depressed state at that very young age itself.

As per the words of political scientists in India we have this syndrome called the “EMPIRE TO NATION”, syndrome.

Which means, freeing the nation from colonial rule, without freeing the people and the society from the deep rooted feudal colonial class in administrative systems.

Now leaders of our freedom struggle they took over as rulers of secular democratic state delivered to them by cesarean surgery, a visible gap is observed in the democracy that is formed in the constitution and the democracy that is practiced in every day to day life, in the political process.

When the poor are too many and the rich are relatively few, the democracy tends to be for the few rather than the many.

When there is a problem in understanding the system, that’s the hazard, without understanding the complex system who will talk the ownership.

When there is no ownership there will be a threat to the oneness of the nation.

People must be contented, they must be happy, they must live in peace and harmony, all will be possible only by proper governance for which we need people and a strong state, and hence strong leaders who can shoulder the responsibilities of all the 121 crores of Indian lives, in our society ready to be guided by the leaders, who will accept the challenge to honestly lead your principles, dignity and prosperity.

YOU CAN BE THAT LEADER,

Don’t turn around and look up to another person for leadership, he is looking up to you.

Take control of your countries destiny, think of a wonderful future in which India is a beautiful place, and people from other nation adhere to the example set by our nation and they want to live in a place like India.

Let us join hands together in the mission of making India proud.

Jai Hind.

~H.N @MyWideAwake.

India and her contradictions-It was a spring of hope, it was a winter of despair.

If parents worried about their sons instead of their daughters – QUESTIONING CAPABILITIES.

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PARENTS to their SON:

Hey, Where are you going?

What time will you be back?

Who is dropping you?

Do you have a girl to accompany you?

Have you gone crazy? Go change your clothes.

Why do you have such a small mentality?

Dear son, we trust you, we just do not trust the world.

Son, if you have to go alone, at least carry basic empathy, and fundamental human ethics with you, okay?

Do you have the pepper spray that I gave you?

You’r sexism is showing, cover it.

Boys from good homes, do not show skin.

At anytime if you feel that you will be a threat to any woman’s safety, the just call us, we will come and pick you up.

It is unsafe to go out at night, what if you molest someone.

Come back home before sunset.

Going out for clubbing? Then do not drink much, because you know how boys forget about moral ethics after they get drunk.

If you are coming late, make sure a girl drops you, just so you do not harass anyone.

Why did not you pick up my call, I gave you twenty missed calls.

We were just worried that you were harassing some girl.

Be careful son, because at night a lone boy is a threat to the society.

You better be very careful son!

~So all girls have heard those “don’t show skin, don’t go out late at nights”, words from their parents, but what if for a change parents, instead of obstructing a girls freedom, obstruct a man’s  lawless capabilities, won’t our cities be safer for women, and won’t this world be a better place to live in.

So don’t restrict you daughter’s but instead teach your son’s what is empathy.

~HN@MyWideAwake.

If parents worried about their sons instead of their daughters – QUESTIONING CAPABILITIES.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Deja vu – Clinging on to the past.

Hi my beautiful friends,

2016 was a dull year for me to be honest, it was a year full of disappointments for me.

Welcome 2017, two steps forward and one step back, here I am once again feeling broke and broken hearted at the same time.

It has been almost ten days past new year and its like déjà vu, a feeling of having already experienced the present situation.

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Today was a day which I was looking forward to since the past week, I had a very important work today which I missed (actually I decided not to show up) and ended up staying home, which I obviously did not put to any use, I just ended up eating and sleeping the whole day.

All for nothing,

Have you ever had that feeling where you eagerly wait for someday or something or someone in life, you end up handpicking what clothes to wear, what way to prepare you hair and so on, but when that moment actually arrives right before you, you give up just because you feel uninspired all of a sudden.

That is exactly what happened to me today, I woke up half past my lunch time, brushed my teeth and ended up drinking four cups of coffee the first thing in the morning,

huh actually afternoon.

And then what did I  do,

Of course think about my problems over and over again, until I started feeling like my brain would burst if I spent anymore time dwelling over my past.

But then when reality hit me hard, I just knew no matter how much I wish to runaway from my situation, I am just going to have to face it the next day.

Its better to get over with situations now rather than tomorrow,

If this thought had ever occurred to me yesterday, I probably would not have spent today whining away, because all I did today was worry about how things would have been if I had been there.

Sometimes we regret things that we did not do rather that the things that we did do.

Deja vu – Clinging on to the past.

 

 

 

TEMPTED TO SIN

No man knows how bad he is,

Until he had tried very hard to be good,

He tries very hard not to sin,

Even though temptation makes his head spin.

A starving man will not think about moral good,

Because all he wants is to fill his stomach with food,

But if temptation, wins over the caution of his kith and kin,

He will not hold high, his chin.

~H.N

TEMPTED TO SIN

@MyWideAwake.