Filter yourself: Sometimes you are the toxic one.

Hi my beautiful friends,

Do you find it weird that everytime you are around your friends something goes wrong to them,

Do you find it weird that everytime you are around the problem just gets bigger and bigger,

Do you find it hard to realize that you are the toxic one here,

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It’s very easy to analyse this,

Do you hate it when someone betrays you?

But do you feel its fine to betray someone else around you when it comes to your own good?

Come on, lets be honest for once,

We have all been in that one situation where we choose our self benefits over the good for others.

When it comes to others, rules are rules, but when it comes to a situation  that benefites ourselves we happen to work our mind around the saying “Everything is fair in love and war”.

Being selfish is fine at times, because we are all humans, but when your selfishness knocks out your conscious and sucks out the pleasure or pride of others, its not fine.

Seriously, the first step in changing yourselves is admitting that you are the toxic one, and just stay out of any situation which will only bring pain for others.

Because sometimes, you are the mean one,

You are the negative and pessimistic one,

You are the jealous one,

You are the one that adds fuel to the fire.

Because here’s the truth – chances are, at some point or another, you have been toxic to someone.
Just be cautious and filter that toxic part of you,
Forget your past, because everyone makes mistakes,
Learn to be good and do good in the future.
~H.N@MyWideAwake.

India and her contradictions the simple truth-It was a spring of hope, it was a winter of despair.

“India is not, as people keep calling it, an underdeveloped country, but rather, in the context of its history and cultural heritage, a highly developed one in an advanced state of decay.”
― Shashi Tharoor

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But,

We stand fourth amongst the most dangerous country for women, and our best universities in the country shockened to make it into the top 300 at most every year.

Using the most parsimonious definition of the poverty line, there are at least 300 million extreme poor in India, living on less than simply a dollar a day.

An India that has a higher mortality rate higher than that of Sudan, Ethiopia and Bangladesh.

WELCOME TO 68 YEARS OF INDIAN REPUBLIC.

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times,

It was a spring of hope, it was a winter of despair,

We were all going to heaven, or  we were all going direct the other way.

Indians are forced to recall the memories of reading opening passage of Charles Dickens “The tale of two cities”, the exact description of India’s contradictory condition.

Mera Bharat Mahan, yes we must accept that, we are a great nation, but with  a little bit of confusion.

So lets break it down to what independence means to us, and lets move beyond the cliche, that independence means freedom with responsibility,

I personally believe that independence in a non so properly defined institutional setting, be it a nation or a small organisation cannot be absolute in itself because of its limitation of being exercised in an institution which is not capable of defining its foundation because of its complex nature.

A very misunderstood institution means unnecessary hierarchy, it means division, it means procedure, and it eventually curbs freedom.

In short we think we are free, we think we are independent, but in reality we are not.

Our institutions are weakening day by day,

Lets take day to day examples,

Lets take a leisure walk in the pavement of Lajpat nagar, you have have a very strong prerequisite, you have to be a very trained athlete in 400m hurdles to walk without falling down a manhole or getting hit by a truck.

You can not be with the person you love, and no I am not talking about educative rights, we will talk about it but later. I am talking about Interfaith marriage or Inter-caste marriages without fear of extreme social pressure.

Education or the lack of it in our schooling systems that push a million students to wait a spot in war that force their creative minds into a clinically depressed state at that very young age itself.

As per the words of political scientists in India we have this syndrome called the “EMPIRE TO NATION”, syndrome.

Which means, freeing the nation from colonial rule, without freeing the people and the society from the deep rooted feudal colonial class in administrative systems.

Now leaders of our freedom struggle they took over as rulers of secular democratic state delivered to them by cesarean surgery, a visible gap is observed in the democracy that is formed in the constitution and the democracy that is practiced in every day to day life, in the political process.

When the poor are too many and the rich are relatively few, the democracy tends to be for the few rather than the many.

When there is a problem in understanding the system, that’s the hazard, without understanding the complex system who will talk the ownership.

When there is no ownership there will be a threat to the oneness of the nation.

People must be contented, they must be happy, they must live in peace and harmony, all will be possible only by proper governance for which we need people and a strong state, and hence strong leaders who can shoulder the responsibilities of all the 121 crores of Indian lives, in our society ready to be guided by the leaders, who will accept the challenge to honestly lead your principles, dignity and prosperity.

YOU CAN BE THAT LEADER,

Don’t turn around and look up to another person for leadership, he is looking up to you.

Take control of your countries destiny, think of a wonderful future in which India is a beautiful place, and people from other nation adhere to the example set by our nation and they want to live in a place like India.

Let us join hands together in the mission of making India proud.

Jai Hind.

~H.N @MyWideAwake.

India and her contradictions-It was a spring of hope, it was a winter of despair.

If parents worried about their sons instead of their daughters – QUESTIONING CAPABILITIES.

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PARENTS to their SON:

Hey, Where are you going?

What time will you be back?

Who is dropping you?

Do you have a girl to accompany you?

Have you gone crazy? Go change your clothes.

Why do you have such a small mentality?

Dear son, we trust you, we just do not trust the world.

Son, if you have to go alone, at least carry basic empathy, and fundamental human ethics with you, okay?

Do you have the pepper spray that I gave you?

You’r sexism is showing, cover it.

Boys from good homes, do not show skin.

At anytime if you feel that you will be a threat to any woman’s safety, the just call us, we will come and pick you up.

It is unsafe to go out at night, what if you molest someone.

Come back home before sunset.

Going out for clubbing? Then do not drink much, because you know how boys forget about moral ethics after they get drunk.

If you are coming late, make sure a girl drops you, just so you do not harass anyone.

Why did not you pick up my call, I gave you twenty missed calls.

We were just worried that you were harassing some girl.

Be careful son, because at night a lone boy is a threat to the society.

You better be very careful son!

~So all girls have heard those “don’t show skin, don’t go out late at nights”, words from their parents, but what if for a change parents, instead of obstructing a girls freedom, obstruct a man’s  lawless capabilities, won’t our cities be safer for women, and won’t this world be a better place to live in.

So don’t restrict you daughter’s but instead teach your son’s what is empathy.

~HN@MyWideAwake.

If parents worried about their sons instead of their daughters – QUESTIONING CAPABILITIES.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

TEMPTED TO SIN

No man knows how bad he is,

Until he had tried very hard to be good,

He tries very hard not to sin,

Even though temptation makes his head spin.

A starving man will not think about moral good,

Because all he wants is to fill his stomach with food,

But if temptation, wins over the caution of his kith and kin,

He will not hold high, his chin.

~H.N

TEMPTED TO SIN

@MyWideAwake.

2016. What can I say? 2017 needs hope and prayers.

2016. What can I say?
Being on the last page of this book gives me chills down my spine. This Journey was intimidating yet beautiful. A big thank you to everyone for being a sentence, a paragraph, a chapter or the entire book itself and for making me a part of yours too. I’m taking ahead memories, both good and bad to reminisce ,subsequently making me a stronger human than I was.new-year-03.jpg

I’d like to pen down this last page for all the people we lost this year – to war, to calamities, to betrayal ; anything! To families who ain’t as fortunate as we are, to the children who are longing for love and support, to the woman who have been disrespected, to the mothers, without whom we wouldn’t be who we are today, to the nation for all their selfless deeds to the society, to everything!

2017 needs hope and prayers.

It needs you. It needs us. Break out of your cocoon, find yourself, unleash the best version of you. Let’s all hope we do good things for the world and always believe in a miracle. Stay blessed.
Here I raise my glass to make a toast! To 2016!

2016. What can I say? 2017 needs hope and prayers.

5 WAYS IN WHICH CHRISTMAS SCREWED ME-Every single year.

Hi my beautiful friends!

It’s the season to be happy isn’t it!

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But why is  that every single year I end up feeling upset about something or the other on the day of christmas.

I have listed out the five major reasons that make me queasy during christmas,

1. CATEGORIZING YOUR FRIENDS:                                                                                                                           Oh hell, don’t even get me started on this one. Have you ever experienced this situation? Where you categorize friends and write down to whom you would buy gifts, to whom you send out gift cards, and to whom you just wish merry christmas through text.                                                                                                                                                                                                  If not then you are just simply a better person than me,

I experience this every year and it frustrates me like hell. I just hate doing this, its like categorizing your loved  ones into good friends, descent friends and bad friends.

But here it goes, there are no descent friends or bad friends, there are just friends, friends are supposed to be good aren’t they? If not, why the hell are they your friends in the first place?

2.  BUYING GIFTS- AGAIN BASED ON CATEGORIES:

So after crossing the stage one of categorizing our friends, we end up in the mall, trying to get our mind wrapped around the one thing that our friend wiould like.

We end up examining each and every store and still we couldn’t get our head focused on one thing. We want to buy almost everything that we see, but we are just broke to do that.

3.  IF YOU HAVE TWO BEST FRIENDS:

Just incase if we have two best friends whom we value equally and we end up buying one cheap gift for one and an expensive for the other one.

We are screwed, cause we end up deeply regretting it, even though we know for a fact that  our close ones wouldn’t comment or criticize on it, we still feel bad, don’t we.

4. SECRET SANTA:

Good lord, again presents, what to buy? And supposing if we receive the name of the person whom we don’t know that well, we just end up breaking our heads with what to buy for them.

By luck if we receive the name of a person that we don’t like, that means war doesn’t it, we end up using that chance and give them something lame, well to be honest, this part of christmas is super fun!

But to our rescue we all have that one friend who ends up telling everyone whose name they received. What fun is it in playing secret santa without that big mouthed friend!

5.  SURPRISE GIFTS:

There is nothing in this world that makes me feel worst than a situation where someone upexpectedly  gifts me, well you may wonder what wrong with such a situation, in fact that I am just lucky to have such friends.

Of course I am lucky to have them, but they aren’t lucky to have me as their friend.

Because I end up empty-hand, and I do not give them anything in return, since I had absolutely no idea about their “SURPRISE PLAN”, they should have given me a heads-up atleast.

So at the end of the day I am the one that receives the gift and yet I feel bad,

Could life get any worse?

~In the headache of treating christmas as day for giving presents and as a bounty for ones previous action, we end up forgetting the true meaning of christmas.

Its all about love, sharing and giving,

ITS NOT ALL ABOUT GIFTS, don’t get me wrong, gifts do encourage the spirit of christmas, but that surely doesn’t show how much a person loves you.

Just because someone gets you a great gift, that doesn’t mean they are your best friend, and just because your best friend does’t get you a great present, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you.

~H.N

5 WAYS IN WHICH CHRISTMAS SCREWED ME-Every single year.

Discover the beauty that shines within!

Hi my beautiful friends!

So did you just discover that you are fat and ugly? Did  you just realized that you have terrible acne scars and an ugly nose and the word thigh gap has never existed in your body’s dictionary?

Well if your answer is YES YES AND YES, then;

Welcome to the club! I just want you to know that you are not alone.

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We all have our barbie looking skinny peers, and then there is us. There are a lot of people who are not afraid to give their opinions whether they are hurtful or not. People who laugh and stare. People who watch you eat and make snarky comments about it.

Remember they try to hurt you just to hide their own insecurities, they pry and bully you only because it gives them the power of superiority, they do it just so that you do not do it to them first, because remember everyone has their own flaws.

Tell yourself everyday that there are no scars in your soul and that you are beautiful. Don’t try to hide your differences because that is what makes you stand out in the real world!

What you do have to discover is not the marks on you skin,

but the light that shines within,

because remember beauty lies within.

~H.N

Discover the beauty that shines within!

@MyWideAwake